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November 2009 
What would you like to accept?
Posted on May 31st, 2009
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Laurie
Laurie
This is in Response to the Questions and Reflections for May 31, 2009:
I have trouble accepting the speed at which time moves. I don't think it's moving faster then when I was a child, I know that it's moving faster. At a recent Gregg Braden/Howard Martin conference in Chicago, even they eluded to this phenomenon. It's not going to slow down or return to what it had been. In fact, it may even speed up. As such, I feel the need to get myself in sync with it so that I don't always feel one step behind ...
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Time! I have a question; does time exist in the present moment or is it the product of comparing the present moment to a future moment or to a moment in the past? Clocks have been ticking at the same rate for many years, so why does time seem to move faster? Well, If I set my dreams, my aspirations, my goals and expect them to be achieved at a given point in time and don't achieve them, I then get to say, time goes too fast! But in reality, it comes down to the point of my inability to accept things the way they are. In essence, my problem stems from the fact, that either I am standing on the tips of my toes looking into the future saying; they haven't arrived yet, or I am looking into the past saying; I haven't done enough, which comes the proposition, that time is relative! Relative to the past and future, I don't know about you, but I don't experience time in the present moment which behooves me to live more in the present accepting the isness of life. But still, I find time to pout, grieve, and complain that the world will not devote itself in making me happy.
Will -
Great observations!
When I “stand on the tips of my toes looking into the future” I am not concerned that it “hasn't arrived yet” … rather, I am concerned that it's arriving waaaaay tooooooo soooooon.
I was thinking earlier that since the future doesn't exist, it's so much healthier just to be here now. I've known this for awhile, but I think I'm doing better than I ever have with it. What Will said about a lack of acceptance rings true.
I'm interested in how this society's notions of time might shift. I wish that could happen.
Time. Ahh, yes,… Zip! There it went!
Laurie,
It's all the same thing….. it's like me driving a car looking in the rearview mirror for a while and suddenly realize that the car in front of me came upon me so fast that I hit it. Then I could say; time flies or the future comes too fast, but the situation developed out of the fact that I was not present, which has nothing to do with time.
Laurie,
I think it would be easier to make a shift in our notion of time, rather than waiting for , and expecting society change its perception of time.
Will, Laura & Sandi -
Funny thing …
I recently sent a beautiful quote to one of our Gaia friends, Deb, who is feeling time pressure because she's getting ready to attend the “Celebrate Your Life” conference in Chicago and has so much to get done in such a short amount of time.
It has come back – boomerang style – through your different, yet similar words of wisdom. Here it is. The quote is attributed to Brian Andreas:
“Everything changed the day she figured out there was exactly enough time for the important things in her life.”
For me that's easier said than done, but I am committed to resting in the truth of it. And with friends like you who light a fire under my butt …
Laurie,
Consider this question; what would our life be like and our relationship to time if we didn't procrastinate?
I think that could be called “living intentionally”.
I had to laugh just a little, Will, that's the reason I am no longer a Stepford Wife. Thank you, Jesus.
LOL! But there must have been some value for being numbed out….
Whoa Nellie!
I do not procrastinate.
I use my current time wisely.
And I use my resources wisely.
That is not the problem. The problem is that I feel the future bearing down on me. Like a locamotive with me running as fast as I can (while multi-tasking) in front of it … just not fast enough.
Maybe I'm not explaining myself well. It is not a matter of time management. I know that my nose does not belong in the past. And I know that my nose does not belong in the future. It belongs in the present - in the here and now. Yet I feel the future bearing down on me.
Hmmmmm …. maybe I'm a time traveler and I'm about to miss the elevator that returns me to my real time - The Future
Ok Laurie,
But tell me how can you be present and be aware of the future bearing down on you at the same time? Bifurcation perhaps? :)
Will -
I do see your point. But your point is coming from a stance where I still have not explained my point well (I started the post so the burden of responsibility is mine, not yours).
It's not a mental/thinking thing. It's an emotional/feeling thing. It's a FEELING. Not a THINKING.
On that note, I'm going to go jump in the shower. I just finished mowing, weeding, cleaning out the rain gutters, and grooming two and a half dogs (Irish Wolfhoud, Standard Poodle, and a Westie [hence the half]) … It's girls night out and I'm the designated driver. See - I even schedule FUN into my day :)
Have a great evening!
- Laurie
Standard Poodles wow! Had two, they are magnificent dogs…..carpe diem
I found a youtube link to what Braden has been saying for a few years now.
I guess it's something to be experienced, as you said, Laurie. Hope the fun had some unexpectedly fun stuff!